The Northern John Howard Society has offered the S.T.O.P. (Stop Taking it Out on your Partner) program in Prince George for almost 20 years and has a reputation as an effective tool against domestic violence and violence against women. The program is unique in that it is a voluntary program which targets the offenders of domestic violence. The S.T.O.P. program allows for individuals to receive counselling and peer support without being convicted of an offense ( we also counsel those who have). The S.T.O.P. program is designed for men who use violence or controlling behaviours within their intimate relationships these include physical, psychological, and sexual. We often use Gandhi’s definition of violence, “Any attempt to impose your will on another is an act of violence”. In other words, yelling, swearing at another person is considered violence, walking away and refusing to talk is also considered violence. We focus on physical, sexual, financial and psychological violence: Psychological violence includes verbal, mental, and emotional, violence. Controlling behaviours such as financial control or isolation is also considered domestic violence. The S.T.O.P. group program consists of 8 units over the course of 12 weeks. The program is designed to provide a number of techniques to address violence in relationships and personal growth including Dealing with anger and identifying triggers, The relationship between fear and anger, Self esteem, Toxic shame, Identifying the different types of self talk, Identifying the wide array of abusive behaviours, Respectful and effective communication and even tips on having fun in your relationships. The program . Assisting these clients in feeling safe enough to take personal risks is an essential part the counsellors/facilitators job. We do this by never judging the client as a person but at the same time being firm on his behaviours. The client is always held accountable for his actions and takes responsibility for his abusive behaviour.